I’ve got this awesome dilemma going, and it’s really not fun. The time to start planning the wedding is close at hand, and I kind of wish that we hadn’t already booked a venue
See, the issue is that we were mainly concerned with finding a venue that didn’t suck and that we could afford. We found that, which is awesome, but it kind of comes with it’s own color palette. Originally, we were going to do green and orange pastels, but as the venue is mostly shades of red, black, and cream, I thought it would be better to take the color cues from the existing décor so our colors wouldn’t clash.
The problem is that the boy likes blue and green, not red. He was okay with our wedding being red and cream colors, but then yesterday I got a new phone, and thus a new phone cover, which is a shiny emerald green, and he can’t stop looking at it! I know it’s just a phone case, but he’s obsessed with the color, and it makes me feel really guilty that this wedding of ours, something that’s supposed to be about both of us, doesn’t represent his favorite colors. I don’t really have a favorite color, it totally depends on my mood at the time, so I really don’t have an allegiance. My other half, however, is pretty committed to liking all things green and/or blue.
So I tried to suggest that we do a kind of sea glass themed wedding, which is fitting, as he’s a sailor, and I feel as though I should have been born a fish (I love the water). The reception space is pretty blank at our venue, but the rest of the place has a very definite color scheme, and I really wanted to use it in photos! Since it’s downtown, we’re not going to have a ton of attractive options for photo backgrounds, so I wanted to take advantage of the lobby and the bar area to get some good pictures, but if we were in pastel greens and blues…
Except that none of it matters, because either my fiancé’s love of green and blue doesn’t extend to the pastel hues, or he just has no eye for color and can’t envision it (personally, I think it’s the latter). So he doesn’t want to do sea glass colors! I was trying to figure out how to incorporate green into the palette a little bit without everything looking like Christmas, but so far, I haven’t been able to, since he likes the bright, saturated jewel tones. As picky as he is, I still want to make sure I can incorporate his favorite colors, but I really just can’t see how it can be done at this venue, and I think it would probably look stupid if I just gave in and told him he could be special and wear a green tie or something. I know he wouldn’t care, but there’s a process, there’s supposed to be a theme, things have to match, and with all of my idiosyncrasies and peccadilloes, I would go insane if everything else followed a common theme, and then there he was, clashing with everything and looking like a fool
He says he “doesn’t mind,” but I know that that’s guy speak for “I’m not going to hassle you about it because you’ll totally lose it.” I know my sister-in-law would tell me not to stress, but I don’t like not having everything figured out right now, I don’t work that way. I need to know what I’m going to do, I need to have a plan, and if that changes, fine, but I don’t like just having no clue what I’m doing and not even worrying about it, that’s just not me. I had this whole vision of what we were going to do when our colors were green and orange, and then had to start from scratch when we switched to red and cream, and I can’t bear the thought of tossing all those ideas and starting from scratch again. I mean, I just finished my inspiration board! I have this whole cohesive idea for how it’s going to go, and if I lose that, I will start stressing, and I will lose it!
Oh well, I just won’t bring it up again and keep going the way I’m going, maybe he’ll be content with the gigantic green and blue koi I’m putting on my arm on Thursday, he can just look at that all day 🙂